“Good morning Faith ,This is to inform you that your request to resume classes has been turned down due to unforseen circumstances.We are so sorry but we hope to see you try again next year .”
Placing the phone on the table,she sat like a bride or groom deserted at the altar.😥
She felt numb with disappointment,and a feeling of downcast washed over her .She felt like the world was crashing down at her .
Her hopes of going to school that year was dashed to pieces .Rhetorical questions began to flood in her mind “Why does things don't end up the way we plan it ?Why now ,when I need this opportunity the most in life ?Depression began to slip in .
She echoes her voice “How does if feel to be disappointed at the most important moment of life ?
Disappointment is the negative emotion you feel when an outcome doesn’t match up to your expectations. Characterised by feelings of sadness, loss, anger and frustration, disappointment is an unavoidable part of life – but it’s not always easy to deal with, even if your setback is relatively minor.
You may experience disappointment when something positive you expected to happen – a new job , a new relationship, a holiday ,not making sales,not buying that dream house or car – doesn’t eventuate. Disappointments can be minor frustrations or life-changing events.
I applied for jobs online during the strike and guess what I was rejected countless times and the striking thing is that I slipped into depression forgetting that i knew that it was a win -win situation for me .
See I am not here to give one cooked up motivational speech like i did on my WhatsApp status today because the sad truth about life is that you will always receive disappointments most times,due to the fact that we expect too much from ourselves and others .
But what matters most is you getting back up after the ordeal .
Adjust your expectations
You feel disappointed because things didn’t turn out as you expected. But if you adjust that expectation, you may be able to feel less disappointed and move on.
Adjusting your expectations can be a useful tool in getting over feelings of disappointment. But it’s also important to constructively deal with the disappointment, rather than pretend it didn’t happen altogether.
Whenever you experience a stressful event, including a big disappointment, it’s important to look after your physical health as well as your mental wellbeing.
Thinking of commiting suicide or other crazy things should never be in list .
Understand that life happens and get up .Try one more time .
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One of the ways to cope with disappointment is by writing down our feelings.I do write mine down a lot because it helps relieve the stress and depression that comes with it .
First, accept how you feel.
Disappointment hurts. And that’s OK.
Remember, you are not a disappointment.
Just because you may have been disappointed, had a setback or made a mistake and disappointed someone else doesn't mean that you are a disappointment or a failure .Know that and know peace abeg .
Think of solutions to situations where you failed the first time.
When things don't go the way we hope, it is normal to feel disappointment. But we must be careful how we deal with that feeling, because if we remain in a state of disappointment for too long, it can turn into discouragement, despair, and even depression.
The bible encourages further in Psalms 30:5 “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.”
Trust God to help you in the process ,talk to him openly because he hears clearly and will always help at the end .
For many years of my life, I experienced regular depression. I would awake in the morning with a little voice in my head saying, "I feel depressed."
Any little situation i will start feeling depressed and worn out ,but the battle in life isn’t over but what keeps me going most times is that this suffering or disappointment is just temporary and not permanent .
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In btw I was the girl at the opening of this blog post 🤗.